My partner of ten years checks my phone when I'm asleep. Is that a dealbreaker?

Relationships · Manchester

Side A (age 29)

I found out my partner of ten years has been unlocking my phone at night and reading my messages for about 9 months. Nothing was ever wrong in them. I'm not angry about jealousy, I'm angry that it was 9 months of being watched without knowing.

Side B (age 44)

I looked once, after months of feeling like something was off, and I kept looking because the reassurance wore off in a day. I know it was wrong. I told the truth the moment I was asked instead of deleting anything.

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